I was inspired to write this post because I know that I am not the only one who has days when the fight for more and better feels like it’s not worth the trouble. On average, I have 2-3 days a month when I feel like this. Sometimes it’s associated with my hormones changing due to my menstrual cycle and sometimes it’s me allowing the discomfort that comes with growth to get the best of me. For the last 3 years, since starting Women By Choice, I have experienced moments of discouragement and thoughts of quitting just about every month. For those who have been following my journey, from the outside looking in, you probably think that I have no reason to complain. For the record, I’m not complaining, but let me explain further. Yes, myself and Women By Choice have been very blessed to experience unimaginable growth, support, and recognition over the years. For that, I am extremely grateful. Those blessings are what I remind myself of daily to remain encouraged to keep going. So, what causes me to feel discouraged and makes me consider quitting? Well, like most of you, my dreams are so much greater than my current reality. There is so much more that I want to offer to women and contribute to my community. My vision for Women By Choice is so beautiful that I sometimes become impatient about seeing it manifested. I also sometimes fear that I won’t have the finances or resources to do everything that I want to do. Nevertheless, I continue to push through.
As an Empowerment Coach, I’ve learned how to evaluate my feelings before acting on them because I understand that there may be other factors influencing them. I am human so I, like anyone else, am susceptible to experiencing a variety of emotions, but what makes me empowered is my ability to know what to do with those emotions and how to control them. There are numerous ways to motivate yourself to keep going when you feel like quitting. These are the first 3 things that I do when I know that I have work to do, but don’t feel up to doing anything:
Pray: God gave me this vision so who better to talk to about my worries, doubts, and fears than Him. I found that the thing that keeps my clients stuck for too long is the delay in expressing their frustrations to someone. It’s like being in trouble, but refusing to call out for help. Many women will suffer in silence due to pride, trust issues, and the disbelief that someone other than themselves can or will help them. I admittedly have been guilty of this also. If you don’t know who you can turn to, turn to God. Release what’s been heavy on your heart and pray for clarity, discernment, and assistance. You will feel lighter and more equipped to face your challenges knowing that you are not alone in fighting through them.
Count Your Blessings: As I mentioned earlier, counting my blessings is one of the many things that I do to keep myself encouraged daily. When you have moments when you feel like you aren’t enough, aren’t doing enough, or can’t go any further, think about all that you’ve accomplished and how far you have come already. Think about all of the times when you thought you wouldn’t make it, but you did. Think of all that times you thought it was over, but later found out that you were just getting started. Think about all of the times things could have turned out much worse than they did. Think about all of the obstacles you overcame to get to this moment. You should realize that you are strong enough and favored enough to push though to the next level. If you got this far, you can go much further.
Focus on Your Purpose, Not Your Problems: A problem has never been solved by sitting around worrying about it. In fact, sitting around dwelling over it can cause more problems like stress, illness, and delays in completing more important tasks. While trying to figure out a solution to your problem, find positive things to do and to focus on in the meantime. The energy you put out into the universe is the kind of energy you will attract. By continuing to think and be positive despite what you’re going through, you will be more likely to attract assistance in the form of a person or opportunity to relieve you of your problem. Although there are times when I fear that I won’t always have what I need to manifest my vision, I remember that even in my lowest moments, I have never lacked what I needed to continue walking in my purpose. I know that I continue to overcome and win because even in the darkest moments of my life, I remain a source of light, hope, and inspiration for others. Galatians 6:7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.
You can find more tips and strategies for maintaining a winning mindset in my new book, She Wins: The Ultimate Guide for Women to Gain a Winning Mindset and Lead a Winning Lifestyle. I am also personally available to coach you through your struggles, help you to gain clarity in those “stuck moments”, and assist you with reclaiming your power in situations that make you feel powerless. Click here to schedule your first session.