She was going through a difficult point in her relationship. Her concerns began to show on her face and through her motions. It was bad. What made it worse was his reaction. She knew at this point that he felt terrible. The woman he loves, no longer loves him. But that wasn’t it. And she knew she had to fix it, or else she’d lose him. She knew she loved him, but they were going through a rough patch. For days, she thought about the reasons why she loved him, and wrote them down in her journal. Her face lit up with smiles and laughter as she reminisced about the times they’d spent together. This was a great man and she knew that. She always thought it was cliché and corny when people said “It’s not you, it’s me”. But, today, she finally understood. It was really her, not him. She confided in a friend and began to fix it.
She opted to use a lifeline and phone a friend. Not just any friend. She’s been her “therapist” for over a decade, knew her well, and genuinely wanted the best for her. After explaining the situation, she advised her to simply speak to her partner and express what she was going through, reminding her that ups and downs happen in relationships, and at his time of hardship, she had to fight to make things work and support him. (All things that she knew, but she just needed a reminder) She had a moment of selfishness and uncertainty. Admitting this was a big step.
The power of friendship is stronger than some people may even know. You see, you can’t always fix things on your own. Sometimes you need a friend (s), or even professional help through therapy. You need a “Get your life” team. None of which should include “Yes men”. Your team should consist of individuals who will tell you when you’re tripping, even if you won’t listen. Often times, we fight internal battles and struggle to be our true self’s. Do not be ashamed to get the guidance that you need to get through a situation.
Be grateful for friendship and sisterhood. We are not perfect. We make mistakes. Sometimes, you need your sisters around to prevent you from making bigger mistakes. It is truly a blessing to have someone to reach out to at any time for anything. Do not take advantage of this opportunity. Yes! This is an opportunity and a privilege. It does not only take a village to raise a child. It also takes a village to mold an adult. You do not need a huge team. But, if you have a few key players on that team, you’re straight.
“A sister is a gift to the heart, a friend to the spirit, a golden thread to the meaning of life.”
― Isadora James