The truth is, people only treat you the way you allow them to. The truth is, a lot of people are only looking out for what’s in their best interest and if you’re not careful, you’ll find yourself trading in your happiness and well-being for theirs. 2017 has been the year that this lesson has become more clear to me than it has ever been. I realized that I was still letting way too many things slide and tolerating far more things than I should have been. I was bothered by how people treated me, but I was accepting it. I was sacrificing my happiness for people who didn’t even appreciate the sacrifices I was making to put them in a better position. And then I woke up one day and took a page out of my own book because I definitely know better. Isn’t it funny how it’s so easy for us to give others advice, but when it’s our turn, we catch amnesia? Charge it to my heart, not my head. My heart tries to stick around to find the best in people while my mind screams, “run”. I definitely know better, but sometimes my desire to help people to be better supersedes my common sense. Well, used to anyway because I have officially turned over a new leaf.
A powerful thing happens when a woman realizes that she operates at her best when she’s truly at peace and happy. A shift occurs every time a woman stops blaming others for her unhappiness or lack of success and chooses to take responsibility for her own life. Truth is, none of us are really after people, money, fame, or material things. We are all after experiencing a life full of happiness, whatever that looks like and feels like to each of us. It’s what we crave, but we often get in our own way of getting to it because we accept and settle for situations and people that don’t make us happy. Why do we do that? Is it fear of the possibility that we just might not be able to get things to be as good as we want them to be? Do we stop believing that happiness can be our reality? Do we get tired of the journey and just decide to just settle for what we’ve got? Do we think that we’re unworthy of having what we desire? I think, for many of us, it’s some combination of these doubts and fears. Whatever it is, I’m done with all of that. I choose me. I choose happy. God put me on this Earth to unite, empower, and inspire others. In order to best walk in my purpose, I need to feel my best. I feel best when I’m happy so that means that I can no longer reserve any space for anything or anyone who doesn’t make me happy. That sounds so simple, right? I actually think it is that simple, but we choose to make it complicated.
Truth is, you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. Truth is, you can say no, mean it, and not feel guilty about it. Truth is, you can release people from your life whenever you are ready to. You can change your mind, habits, and direction. You don’t have to accept being treated like less than you deserve. You don’t have to stay with or around people who hurt you. You don’t have to settle below your standards. In your heart of hearts, you know what will make you happy. You know what you need your life to look like to be happy. You know what you will and won’t be able to accept. You don’t have to sacrifice your happiness for anyone else’s. You can attract the ideal relationships for you. You can change your whole direction for your life and not give a damn what people think about you. You can unsubscribe from other people’s issues. When people try to bring you unwanted and unwarranted gifts, you can return to sender. Just think about it. We only get this one life with a set time limit. I think we should all think wisely about how we choose to spend it. For me, I have decided that if it doesn’t make me better, happier, healthier, or wealthier, I can’t make time for it.