Nice, but Not My Type

Not to toot my own horn, but I think that I am a pretty cool human being. I strive to treat people the way I want to be treated and always exude positive energy, so I can’t see why anyone wouldn’t like me. Those were my thoughts before I knew better and considered that even the sweetest things in life aren’t enjoyed by everybody. When I think about how discouraged I used to get when I didn’t fit into certain circles, I wish I had someone around to remind me that even though I’m super awesome, I won’t be liked by everyone. Learning that I can be the nicest person in the world and there will still be people who won’t be attracted to me is one of the best lessons life has taught me. Once I accepted that I am not everybody’s type, I stopped trying to be everybody’s type. I stopped compromising who I am to fit into places I do not belong. I stopped trying to nip and tuck parts of my personality to be liked and accepted by people who are not meant to be part of my journey. I freed myself, made the choice to be myself, and started attracting my tribe.

My tribe, let me tell you about my tribe. Every day, I thank God that I found myself so that I could find my tribe. For years, I felt so alone even in the moments when I was surrounded by people. I spent many days feeling misunderstood and undervalued. I wish I had learned earlier that being true to yourself allows you to attract people who don’t need convincing to like you or special glasses to see the value in you. As the saying goes, “real recognizes real”. I giggle a little when I think about how bothered I would get when I encountered people who didn’t like me. I had to get real with myself to realize that the real me doesn’t care much for those people either. Realizing that I am a nice person who isn’t attracted to everyone helped me to understand that a person can prefer others over me and still be a nice person. I learned to stop taking it personally when I meet people who just don’t vibe with me. I stopped harboring negative feelings about it. I simply accept that those people aren’t members of my tribe and continue being myself to attract those who are meant for me. “Your vibe attracts your tribe.”

These days, I am so much happier because I am no longer crippled by irrational fears of being my authentic self. I am no longer afraid of others disagreeing with me or rejecting me. I am finding so much joy in being true to myself and aligning myself with those who have similar goals and values. I am thriving in spaces with people who get it and get me. I am enjoying life with those who are meant to be part of my journey. I am at peace with the fact that everyone won’t like me. I am okay with being nice to everyone without needing to be liked by everyone. Life is so much more rewarding and fulfilling when you tap into the most honest and best parts of yourself even when what you find is different than what you see around you. Having the courage to be yourself in a world that is constantly telling you to be something else is one of the best things you will ever do. You will go from struggling to fit in to being surrounded by those who value what you bring to the table. It won’t be everybody, but you eventually learn to appreciate quality over quantity.

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