I had the honor of being a Keynote Speaker at the Women Are Dope Conference in Atlanta, GA this past Saturday and my topic was “The Season for Being Focused and Faithful”. I was inspired to speak on this topic because I used to feel like it would be selfish of me to focus more on myself than others until I learned that I could never lose and never disappoint those who are meant for me while focusing on my self-improvement. The better I am to myself, the better I will be to others. I wish I could say that I learned this lesson earlier, but it was only recently that God sat me down and dealt with me.
As the Founder of Women By Choice Global, much of my thoughts are focused on what I can do to help improve the lives of other women. While I have worked diligently to build a platform and organization that creates numerous opportunities for women to win, I was making the mistake of neglecting doing things that I needed to do to ensure my own growth and elevation. I had been constantly pouring out without making sure that I was pouring just as much back in. As you can imagine, eventually the well ran dry. At some point, I felt mentally and emotionally depleted. I wanted to continue giving, but couldn’t because I ran out of passion, inspiration, and energy. I wanted to keep going, but I didn’t have anymore fuel to push through. I was forced to face what I had been neglecting.
What I had been neglecting was my self-care and education. I wasn’t taking care of my mental, physical, and emotional health like I should have been and it reflected in my energy levels and quality of my work. I wasn’t learning enough new things and feeding my brain more than what I already knew so eventually I ran into a wall. I couldn’t say or do anything new because I hadn’t learned anything new. I felt frustrated, stuck, and discouraged until I realized that the only option I had was to try something different. It was uncomfortable and even a little frightening, but I stopped doing what I’d been accustomed to doing for the last 4 years – not knowing how that would impact what I’ve worked so hard to build – to get unstuck, renew my passion, and move my life forward. I had to stop focusing on what other people needed or wanted from me and focus on what myself and God needed from me.
Shifting my focus and fully activating my faith was the best thing I could have done. I found out that you won’t miss anything that’s meant for you while you’re getting yourself together. Instead of starting my days checking my email and posting on social media, I now begin my days with prayer, journaling, and exercise. Instead of wasting time watching, listening to, or entertaining things that are going to do nothing to inspire, motivate, and move me forward, I spend my time more wisely by listening to and learning from people who make me want to be better. Instead of trying to say and do what I think others will like or gravitate to, I say and do things that are in alignment with my purpose and truth. The more time I spend working on myself and trusting that things will work out for my good because my intentions and actions are good, the more I attract opportunities and people that are in alignment with who I am and where I’m trying to go.
This is the season for being focused and faithful. This is the season for saying “no” to anything that isn’t helping you grow. This is the season for self-improvement. This is the season to do what’s in your best interest without guilt or regret. This is the season for doing what you know is right and good even when you can’t see an immediate reward for it. This is the season for trying, learning, and experiencing new things. This is the season for making the most of what you have already been blessed with. This is the season for nourishing your existing relationships, the ones that have proven themselves to be valuable. This is the season for maximizing all opportunities that come your way. This is the season for focusing on what you need to do to get to the next level. This is the season for digging deep and pushing through doubt, fear, challenges, and obstacles. This is the season to believe bigger and go harder for yourself. This is the season to know wholeheartedly that you will reap what you sow. This is the season to focus on what really matters in your life. This is the season to get your priorities in order. This is the season to prove to yourself that you are worthy and capable of receiving everything your heart desires. This is the season to prepare for what you’ve been praying for. This is the season to have faith that on the opposite end of your trials and struggles is greater strength, wisdom, and another breakthrough. This is the season to find and be yourself without apology. This is the season to accept that there is nothing selfish about focusing on becoming your best self. This is the season to get in alignment with God’s plan for you.
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