There are days when I feel like I’m in the driver’s seat of my life and there are days when I feel like life is driving me. Some days I have a clear sense of the direction I’m going in and other days I can barely see the road in front of me. For as long as I can remember, my life has consisted of two different seasons. One that looks like all my prayers were heard and answered and one that looks like “God must not be getting my messages.” Meaning, sometimes things go exactly the way I envision and plan and sometimes I have no clue what’s about to happen next. Being a bit of a control freak, the latter season used to freak me out. That was until I learned to give myself a pep talk that sounds something like this, “Oh ye of little faith, stop trippin’, it all works out in the end.” You see, at some point I came to terms with the fact that my faith will be tested and I realized that I actually want it to be. Every time my life is shaken up and I make the choice to push through the confusion and overcome the obstacles, my faith increases. Faith is my most powerful asset in this life. I need it like I need oxygen because without it, I would have checked out long ago. I have seen, experienced, and been through a lot of things that could have easily taken me out of the game if I didn’t have faith that things would get better. I now embrace the discomfort of not knowing what will happen next because it forces me to make the choice to either stop until I can see clearly or continue walking in faith. As much as it scares me sometimes, I always choose to continue walking in faith. I’m still here and doing well so it hasn’t let me down yet.
As simple as I make walking in faith sound, I can admit that feeling out of control is scary. I mean, who wouldn’t prefer to have a map of their life that displays exactly what road they should travel to guarantee that they’ll reach a destination of happiness and success? Not knowing if, when, or how you’re going to reach that goal or breakthrough you’ve been working and praying for can be discouraging. As an Empowerment Coach, I teach women how to turn their pain into power and avoid being crippled by situations that are out of their control. Because the truth is, you are never completely out of control. Regardless of what’s happening or not happening for you, you always have choices. You have the choice to complain about what you don’t have or show gratitude for what you do have. You have the choice to throw a pity party or pray over your situation. You have the choice to keep working or quit. You have the choice to focus on what you can control or be distracted by what you can’t. No matter what’s happening around you or what external forces are coming against you, you control your mind, body, and spirit. You’ll be surprised how much more clarity you’ll have and how much more you’ll get accomplished when you choose to control what you can instead of focusing on what you can’t. For me, having a consistent positive routine is key. Understanding that you reap what you sow, consistently performing positive actions will help you to continue moving forward in faith because you’ll know that whatever happens to you is happening for your own good. These are four things that I do daily to maintain control over my life and ensure consistent productivity.
Pray – It’s a must that I stay connected to my Creator. Prayer is my source of peace. It’s my time to release. The things I won’t dare say out loud to others, I talk to God about. When things aren’t going as I plan, I know that God is directing me somewhere else. It is my goal to always be in alignment with the divine plan for my life and not get in the way of my own happiness and success because I’m fighting against it.
Exercise – Aside from the understanding that the the mind, body, and spirit are all connected so I need my body to be operating at its best, exercising makes me feel the most control in an out of control world. Feeling discouraged about your slow progress towards reaching goals that are dependent upon other people? Exercising is all on you. Your body goals are dependent on you and you alone. It’s powerful to make the decision to care for your body and watch it transform because of your own actions and no one else’s. When I’m feeling stuck, my best ideas come to me when I’m running. Completing a workout makes me feel accomplished and gives me the boost I need to keep going. It also keeps me disciplined and in good spirits.
Read/Study – I chose to be a lifelong learner once I realized that the time will pass, but nothing will change unless I change it. You’ll never know more than you know now if you stop seeking out more knowledge, information, and new experiences. The secret to consistent progress is consistently gaining more knowledge. The more you know, the more you’ll control.
Give what I wish to receive – Every single day, I choose to do something positive for someone else. As I mentioned earlier, one of the major keys to winning in life is understanding that you reap what you sow. If you want love, give love. If you want support, give support. If you want to be appreciated, show appreciation for someone else. What you put out into the universe will return to you. Sow the seeds daily and patiently wait to reap the harvest in due season.
“You are the master of your destiny. You can influence, direct and control your own environment. You can make your life what you want it to be.” – Napoleon Hill
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