“Who cares?” That’s what I find myself saying to myself more often these days. I recently realized that I have become much less bothered by the negative actions of others and more clear about what really matters to me. I suppose it was only a matter of time once I accepted that I am the only person who is responsible for my happiness and success. I, like you and everyone else, have the choice of what I react to and who I surround myself with. Caring about people who only care about themselves is a choice. Worrying about situations that are out of my control is a choice. Focusing on things that won’t make me better or improve my life is a choice. Every day, you and I choose how we will spend our time and energy and our choices determine whether or not we will live peacefully and happily. If you did an audit of your time and calculated how many hours of the day you spend upset by the actions of others and things that are out of your control, would you be pleased with the results?
There was something about turning 30 that made me realize how fast time flies and come to terms with the fact that one day I will not be here. I don’t think most people consider that their life span is limited because if they did, I don’t think they would waste so much time on irrelevant, nonsensical things. I am a realist, never been a dreamer or a window shopper. I am honest and straight-forward. I see things for what they are, not what I wish them to be. And as gruesome as it may sound, I am very aware that one day I will be dead and in the ground. However, death doesn’t scare me. Reaching the end of my life and having regrets about how I spent it does. I have no idea when my time will be up, but when it is, I want to know that I made the most of the time I was blessed with. I want to know that I made a positive difference. I want to be proud of the things I said and grateful for the people I had the opportunity to share time and space with. I don’t want to be mad that I allowed the wrong person to waste so much of my time. I don’t want to regret not using my gifts and living in my purpose. I want for my life to have had meaning to more than just me and I want to leave a beautiful legacy. That is what I care about and I decided that anything not in alignment with those goals don’t deserve my time and energy.
So, who cares about petty people and petty things? Seriously. You can steer clear of people, places, and things that drain your energy and discourage you from reaching your goals. You can decide to activate your faith when you’re in stressful situations. You can choose to turn your pain into power and purpose. Your life is your responsibility. Your happiness is your responsibility. Your success is your responsibility. This world will eat you up and break you down if you don’t come to terms with those facts. People will pull your strings and push your buttons every day and all day long if you don’t learn how to take control over your emotions. This world is not always fair. People are not always nice. No one is coming to save you. If you want to be happy, healthy, and successful, you have to decide to be. You must choose to focus only on the things and people who are in alignment with your vision of what a happy, healthy, and successful life looks like to you. Get serious about your life because no one can live it for you and no one has to suffer the consequences of what you do like you do. You choose what you care about. You choose what you focus on. You choose who you surround yourself with. Every day, you make choices that will determine whether you will reach the end of your life and feel blessed to have lived or wish you could rewind and start over again. There are no do-overs. You cannot go back in time. Make the best choices for your life starting right now.
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