Some might say that no would choose to be unhappy, but I beg to differ. In fact, I know people who choose to be unhappy. They might not realize that they are making the choice to be unhappy because they are so busy blaming their unhappiness on others, but they are. One of the best and most powerful lessons I have learned in my lifetime is that I have choices. Every day that I wake up, I know that I have the choice to succumb to my feelings of laziness or get up and be productive. I have the choice to allow the pains of past days to affect my present days negatively or choose to treat every day as an opportunity to create better memories. I have the choice to sit and worry or move forward in faith. I have the choice to stay stuck in my bad habits or commit to improving myself daily. I know that I choose exactly how long I allow myself to be bothered and distracted by irrelevant things. I thank God every day for the gift of self-awareness. I check myself regularly so that no one else has to. I often recognize my mistakes before anyone else has to bring them to my attention. I choose to learn from where I’ve been and I have committed myself to using every day I’m blessed with to become a better woman. Although I’m not perfect, I pride myself in being in tune with myself. I know who I am and how I got to be this way. I know my bad habits and insecurities and what triggers them. I know what I struggle with and why. I know what kind of people I want to be surrounded by. I know what I need to be happy. And in knowing all of this, I choose to be mindful of my thoughts, words, and actions to ensure that I am not getting in the way of my own happiness.
Happiness is a choice. Once you make up your mind to be happy, you will be. It’s all a matter of your choices and perspective. Have you ever stopped to think about what happiness means to you, really? I know that since birth, you’ve had all kinds of people telling you what happiness looks like and means, but have you ever sat down and really reflected on what you were doing or experiencing during the happiest moments of your life? You might find that being happy is much simpler than you thought. You might find that on your journey to happiness, you’ve actually been doing more things to make others happy than you have for yourself. For me, happiness really has nothing to do with material things or impressing others. Happiness for me is simple. It’s having the freedom to do what I love with who I love. I am happiest when I am around those whose presence brings me positive energy. I am happiest when I am writing and inspiring others to be their best. I am happiest when I am experiencing new places and cultures. There’s only a few things that I need to be happy. People who love me for me, the physical and financial freedom to keep creating, helping others, and walking in my purpose, and opportunities to travel.
Being clear about what you really need to be happy helps you to narrow down your goals and make steps towards becoming the woman you need to be to attract the things you want. What you receive in life really has everything to do with what you give. You just can not expect to receive love when you’re giving out hate. You can’t expect to receive blessings when you’re busy trying to be a blessing blocker. You can’t expect to attract your tribe when you’re still hiding behind a mask. You can’t expect others to want to approach you or help you when you’re unapproachable and selfish. There comes a point in every woman’s life where she should sit down and reflect on what behaviors have and haven’t worked for her and make the choice to improve where needed. There comes a time when everyone should stop pointing fingers and accept the part that they play in their unhappiness because we all have the choice to accept or reject things that we are unhappy with. Throughout the course of your life, you will be faced with struggles and you will have to choose whether you are going to allow those struggles to bring out the best in you or break you down until you’re bitter. I hope that when given the choice, you choose happiness. I know that I will.
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